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"This project is the result of nearly three years of research and writing," Marc Adams says. "It's one of my most exciting projects."

It's Not About You: Understanding Coming Out & Self-Acceptance is a practical guide for family and friends of those coming out as well as teachers, social workers and counselors. The book includes a guide for those coming out on how to live life courageously, confidently and consistently.

"I was inspired to write this book after spending the past 14 years interacting with other gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people and discussing coming out experiences and the disclosure reactions of their families and friends," Adams continues. "While the past decade has brought a little improvement in disclosure reactions, there is a serious need for a modern perspective to guide those on the receiving end of a gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender person's honesty as well as encouragement for those taking the step to live their lives honestly."

It's Not About You includes a foreword by Shelley Craig, PhD, LCSW, an assistant professor at Factor-Inwentash Faculty of Social Work at the University of Toronto. She teaches in the Health and Mental Health Specialization primarily focusing on research and practice for health. Dr. Craig is also the president of HeartStrong, a nonprofit social justice group providing support to GLBT students persecuted in religious educational institutions. She also serves on the national board of directors for PFLAG (Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians and Gays)

"Marc Adams has written in intuitive form, what those of us in the social sciences are beginning to understand," Dr. Craig writes. "Reactions matter. This insightful volume establishes a case and framework for approaching these critical moments."

"The purpose of this book is to educate those interacting with gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people not only about the impact of their reactions but to provide a path to correcting an inappropriate reaction," Adams says. "Coming out is a gift of honesty and this book lights the way to accepting that gift and maintaining relationships based on love. Readers at every place in their journey will find something new here."

It's Not About You also includes an important segment by contributing author, Alexander Pangborn, on coming out as transgender. A full time nursing student, Alexander Pangborn plans to focus on sexual health issues in the LGBTQ community. He also serves on the national board of HeartStrong and as the director of TAEO (Transgender Advocacy, Education and Outreach) for HeartStrong.